I don’t normally watch television but I have seen an episode of the Bachelor with Juan Pablo as the lucky guy who had the opportunity of choosing an exceptional woman to be his mate.
Today at a networking event I was engaged in a discussion with a man about the last show in the Bachelor series. He said that Juan was a jerk and he should have proposed.
I imagine that is how most people view Juan.
I am an exception to that view.
I believe that Juan is a man who values marriage and considers seriously what is involved in taking that step. He adores his little girl and he may be mature enough to consider what kind of influence a step mom would have in her life. (I wish to God my ex-husband would have been that mature)
I don’t know the extent of the physical connection he had with the women on the show but a roll in the hay is not the best litmus test for marriage.
I imagine if he was like most men he may have been able to have sex without having his heart involved. Do you know anybody like that?
He may have also realized how much time a serious commitment takes. He may have known he didn’t have the time necessary to dive head first into that ocean.
Have you ever told someone that you liked them but you just did not have the time for a serious relationship? A casual friendship was all you were capable of at that time in your life and you were honest with them from the start.
How did they respond?
Within the past two weeks I have had two different men pursue me and when I set healthy boundaries in the relationship they went beserk.
They accused me of being mean when I said I didn’t have time to see them every night or didn’t have time right then to call them.
My response to one of them was that I was focused at this point in my life and that was NOT being mean.
The other one sent me a very nasty text which resulted in him being blocked from ever contacting me again via my cell phone.
I had a former boyfriend who accused me of being cold and heartless whenever I set boundaries preventing him from controlling my life.
I wonder if this is because I am coming to a point in my life when I am very focused on fulfilling God’s will for my life?
As far as a litmus test is concerned, if someone can not be supportive of God’s will in my life, then they are a waste of my time.
Maybe Juan Pablo is not the worst bachelor, maybe he is a man who knows that marriage should be a life long commitment and that love is a very deep emotion which should not be thrown around lightly.
What are your views on Juan Pablo? Or for that matter what are your reflections on my view?