I married when I was 22 years old and married someone who was 3 years younger than me. Why I did that I couldn’t tell you. It was a big mistake.
Since that point in time I have been trying to raise that man to be a considerate and mature adult. I haven’t had much luck with that.
Just recently he showed me again that he has no sense of maturity in how he deals with situations.
I have one son who lives in Florida. The other two children live in Texas. This son would love to come home for Christmas. Unfortunately I can not afford to fly him here. His dad can.
Instead of talking with me about this and asking me if I could help with flight expenses his dad reserved a one way ticket for him to fly to Texas and told my son that I would have to pay for his way back.
I was not asked if I could afford this. My son called me kind of freaking out and usually in the past I always would cough up the money for him when his dad pulled shit like this. I realized when I did that in the past I was just playing right into the jerk’s hands.
This man has cleaned me out financially and recently got over $6,500 from my IRA but yet he can’t pay for a round trip plane ticket for my son?
He is a narcissistic jerk and he is so good at playing the victim. While he takes money from me he constantly is playing on my kid’s emotions trying to make them feel sorry for him because he has such a “terrible” life.
I have raised three amazing children. I have tried to raise him but I guess you have to start when a person is young to be able to teach them how to treat people with respect.
Unfortunately his parents weren’t responsible parents so I guess there is no hope for the man.
The one thing I have learned over the past year is to stop cleaning up all of the messes he makes for the family. As long as I keep rewarding him he will keep pulling this shit.