I must confess I have gotten back into the internet dating scene a bit lately. I know I said I wasn’t going to but I needed to transform this blog to a different web hosting and I needed to contact the friend who initially set it up for me.
I met him on a dating site but lost his contact info when I lost my iphone so I got back onto the site to try and contact him.
Well once I got on one site it kind of grew to two other sites. (Sheesh sounds like an addiction doesn’t it?)
So recently this dashing man contacted me on one of the sites and I found out he went to my church. Then I found out he was actually in the ministry in my church. That is like a major home run in my game of life.
When I talked with him he was authentic in his connection with God and I will tell you more about him as I get to know him.
One of the first things he did was ask me to take Gary Chapman’s five love languages test. I gave him opposition to this. I don’t think that the five love languages are biblically based. He continued on and I continued to give opposition.
I have a hard time with some Christian leaders who make money off of their ideas and sell it to the Christian public who buy it because they think it is stemming from the Bible. This man actually said that the five languages was based on Biblical truth.
My problem with five love languages is that I serve a God who is perfect in His love for me. He is not boxed in by categories and if I want to love someone through Him I sure as heck don’t want to be loving in a human category way. I want to love like God does.
Nonetheless I took the test in the evening just for jokes and found out what I already knew. Words of affirmation was my highest score. I could have told you that without taking the stupid test. Everything else was pretty close as far as my test scores in the other four categories. Big whoopee.
So I texted him my results and his reply was, “Oh, no.”
“Oh, great,” I thought. “Now he is afraid.”
I asked him why he responded that way and he said his strength was physical touch.
This angered me because now I have to work through fear to get to the point where I can love this Christian brother as God wants me to.
In 1 John 4:18 the Bible says ” There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.”
In Proverbs it also says that no one should add to the Bible or take away and if they do they are a liar.
For the record if anyone can tell me where the heck the five love languages are listed in the Bible I am all ears.
I would caution anyone who is led to this blog to appreciate and learn things from other Christians but to worship or teach anything other than the Word of God in church is just wrong.
There is to be no other teacher in our lives but Christ. Matthew 23:8-12 puts the Christian leaders and teachers into a Biblical perspective.
As author of this blog I too may be tempted to consider myself a teacher. I am not. I share what God has done in my life and the wisdom He has bestowed on me but I am equal to each and every one of you, my readers. I am your Sister in Christ and if I want to be anything more I must be your servant first according to scripture.
PS – You may want to say a prayer for the man I mentioned in this blog post. He is going to take me out for dinner tonight.(lol) He is a man of God but I don’t think He has ever met a woman of God like me. I speak with the sword of truth and slaughter deceit and lies on a daily basis.