I studied Freud when I was in high school. Even then I was not impressed. It seemed like a jacked up way to look at life.
The problem that I have with modern day psychology is that there is not one damn thing I can do to change my parents or my childhood. If I get stuck there with all that was done wrong I will be stuck in a cage of my past.
To learn from the mistakes is one thing but to be caged is another. I have tried to raise my kids in a very different way than my parents raised me and I think I was successful for the most part.
I have learned that I can not change my parents. My mother will always be a screamer and will treat my dad with disdain. She and him will also be somewhat narcissistic in their view of life.
What I can do is forgive them. It is a constant process.
As I forgive them I loose the wounds that they have sought to inflict upon my heart and I give those wounds to God for healing. He has healed a great many wounds in my heart with the counsel of the Holy Spirit.
They will still be negative and try to thwart every good act I do. They will still try to make me into their image but I will resist and cling instead to the image of God.
The act of forgiveness is a way of life. It is not one specific act but it is the only act which can make you fly into freedom and experience the destiny which is to be your future.